on marriage and muddling through …

I was going to write this big, long post about conflict in marriage, scriptural helps, etc. But this post will be brief. The only thing worth remembering is there will always be some muddling through marriage. Because there are days …

Like Easter weekend. What should have been a grand, glorious heaven on earth sort of weekend was absolutely crappy for us. We got in a big, huge, confusing fight (we were both ridiculous) and did that barely speak, stare down thing you do when you’re mad at your spouse. It was super wonderful and spiritual …

Some twenty-four hours later when we were just too tired to keep up all the anger and defensiveness, we exhaled. And then we talked. Like professional married people. People who aren’t going anywhere no matter how stupid crazy they act.

{this is our professional married couple shot. by kate.}

Yes. And I pray that is always our default. Because Will and I really, really, really love each other. (He just called me on his cell from the grocery store to double check what I had on the list. What a sweetheart.) We’re deep down crazy in love. But there are days …

So back the story. When we finally did talk, I said something so brilliant I thought to tell you. And that is why I’m sharing this post.  To let you know. Because you might need it in your marriage. Are you ready?

SOME DAYS IN MARRIAGE, YOU JUST HAVE TO MUDDLE THROUGH.

And that is a-okay.

And now I am wondering what other outstanding marriage advice is waiting to be revealed. Please tell me … what’s yours?

PS. I asked Will if I could share this story and he said, “Given that we seem to have some expertise in that … knock yourself out.”