Dear Amy …

My son got engaged yesterday … to the most beautiful girl. Her name is Amy.

Dear Amy,

Woooooohooooo!!! Y’all are getting married! In five short months, our family will forever have another Davis …

Amy Davis. (Cutest name ever.)ย 

I know we keep telling you this but we’ve prayed for you since before Will was even born. We prayed for your protection, your purity and your heart. We prayed for a girl who would always love Jesus more than Will. That’s exactly what we got.

In my prayers, I imagined a darling little girl running barefoot in twirly skirts but in my wildest imagination, I never envisioned this cherub face …

(found this last night at your house … heehee.)

Gracious, you were an adorable baby!! You know the first thing I thought when I saw this picture, right? Is that too much, too soon?

Okay. So this morning I woke up and realized I am well on my way to becoming your mother-in-law. Ahem. I don’t like the sound of it. All those negative connotations. I’d just much rather always be Susie to you.

But of course, one day you can call me Mama Suz, Suzu or whatever it is the little darling of a grand baby chooses to call me. Cause I mean look at y’all. You’re going to have some adorable babies!
Too much, too soon? Oooo-kay.

So, this is the thing. I want you to know I’m praying about me. And how to be a ‘good mother-in-law.’ I know I have a lot to learn. And I’ll be asking lots of questions of my friends who are ahead of me. But for now, I want to make a commitment to you. About some things I already understand.

I promise:

  • To pray for you and Will and your marriage. Always.
  • To be honest and vulnerable about our family and our foibles. We are no where near perfect. I know you know that. We count on God to keep us humble and healthy in these things.
  • To honor your autonomy as a family. There will be no squabbles about who goes where on holidays, etc. Any time we get to see y’all, it will be a huge blessing.
  • To be an encouragement in your marriage. Count on truth. Count on support.
  • To expect Will to put you first above our family. From this day forward …

Writing this, it might sound like I have it altogether. Would it surprise you to know I’m crying? It’s hard to have a boy so wonderful as Will and know it’s time to give him up. My mother heart is breaking all around the edges. Being honest. But I know as sure as I sit here, tears rolling down my cheeks, that it’s time to open my hand and let him go.

And Amy, there’s no girl in the world I’d rather release him to … than you.

This. This is why. I’ve never seen Will so happy. Ever. I’ve never watched him protect and love someone like he loves you. And I’ve never been more sure of God’s plan for his life than when I see the two of you together.

I love you, Amy. Thank you for loving Will.

And welcome to our weird and wonderful family ~ you fit in just fine!


PS. Dear readers with MIL tips … please weigh in! I need all the help I can get!