dear daughters: the goal of marriage

dear daughters … is a series where I talk to my girls about stuff. I’d like to invite you to talk about stuff too. Today, the goal of marriage.

dear daughters,

When your dad and I met in high school and started dating, I knew I was in love. And then years later when he proposed, I knew I wanted to get married. I wanted the whole thing: wedding, marriage, house and kids. But in truth, I didn’t exactly understand God’s goal in marriage. Had no idea what it would look like in practice. God’s goal is not a couple with a cute little house or a carload of kids. It’s for a man and wife to become one.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

And that, my dear daughters, is truly a God-sized goal. One that doesn’t happen without a lot of hard work. A lot of mutual submission. And a lot of prayer.

Your grandparents on both sides of the family lived out over fifty years of being one. Through good times and bad times. Celebration and heartache.

dear daughters the goal of marriage susie davis

I want fifty plus years of marriage like Mimi and Papa. Like Mimom and G-dad.

My prayer – and your dad’s – is that our marriage will last a lifetime. Because of course, it’s good for us. But it’s also good for you and the generation that follows.

And I never posted this. But this video from your brother’s wedding just one year ago this weekend … it encapsulates a first right step in marriage.

I’m so grateful for you Amy Davis ~ praying with you and Will for many more!

photo: kate stafford