In episode two of the Dear Daughters podcast, I talk with Rick Reynolds about all things marriage like the fact that God will never let you marry someone who 100% meets all your needs … and how to deal with that truth in a practical way.
Rick, a LCSW, holds a Master’s Degree in Social Work and is a clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. He received his Master’s of Social Work from the University of Denver and completed three years of post-graduate training at the Colorado Institute for Marriage and Family Therapy. He has also worked at the nationally-known Minirth-Meier Tunnel & Wilson Clinic before moving on to private practice.
This is retro-Rick and his sweet wife, Stephanie, on their wedding day. I have to say I just love that tux. :)
Rick’s practice at Crossroads Counseling
Are you a FOBAD (fear of being a disappointment) aka a people pleaser? Eek.
Carrying shame is a way of robbing God of glory. Wow. Read John 3:19-21
What’s the most important thing to do in a new marriage? Be authentic and tolerate each other’s differences.
Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts by Les and Leslie Parrott
Want a better marriage? Try this simple ritual: Within the first 30 seconds of coming back together at the end of the day either kiss for 7 seconds or hug for 60 seconds.
Rick says: Guys pimp tenderness and girls pimp specialness. So consider “tethering” if you have a business lunch with your boss.
Thomas Watson’s The Divine Art of Contentment
Things to Think About
Being a pleaser makes you self-centered because: If you’re thinking about other people but you’re thinking about what they’re thinking about you, you’re still thinking about you. ~ Rick Reynolds
Pretenders and image managers can’t know unconditional love.
God forbids us from marrying someone who can meet all our needs. ~ Rick Reynolds
Two-thirds of all marriage problems are unsolvable, so learning to negotiate differences is hugely important.
My mate is never my problem, my mate only reveals the problem in me. ~ Rick Reynolds